I read a blog by a guy who used to work for OK Cupid.
Dating app usage is extremely dangerous for these people because they spend hours searching for someone and when they don’t match with them it causes a narcissistic injury.ġ1. Since they are looking to fulfill a sense of self they are missing they look to others for that purpose (hence the idolizing). The best way I can describe these people are these are the ones who look for someone to idolize and will do ANYTHING for that person. Most people know about grandiose narcissism but many don’t know about the other side of narcissism which is the vulnerable side. Since narcissism runs on a continuum from grandiose to vulnerable this shows how damaging this can be for anyone expressing these tendencies. I found out that someone with a more pathological form of narcissism (maladaptive) is more socially and emotionally impaired when they aren’t getting the results they desire. I did a study on how dating app usage affects someone’s narcissistic tendencies (whether adaptive or maladaptive). Female dating app users tend to sign off for the day several hours earlier than male users, which results in men who login after ~10PM generally not encountering many logged-in female users.ġ0. I think Bumble is one of the few not owned by them.ĩ. Most dating sites and apps are owned by one company, The Match Group. I had to look at each reported picture and say, ” Yes, that’s a penis.”Ĩ. I mean, you’d expect it because online dating is a cesspit but the sheer amount would still surprise you. The amount of unsolicited dick pictures men would send women, not even accompanied by any words was horrifying. Also, it’s a big problem that women are inundated with DMs while most men get none.ħ. This is probably widely known but women frequently lie about their age and weight and men lie about their height and salary. Other interesting results were that over 60% of men they wrote with on apps and agreed to go on a date, would have no chance, if they asked in real life.Ħ.I worked for Match for a couple of years. Almost half (43%) the female participants who were in a relationship told they’d never have swiped right on their current partner. A friend wrote her master thesis about the different criteria in online dating and real life. According to him, all told the site was mostly men reaching out to dead profiles and never getting responses.ĥ. He didn’t provide numbers but also said the was a huge disparity between the average number of messages sent to women versus those sent to men. He said 99% of the profiles were inactive, and that 80% of the active profiles were men.
We were able to determine that it takes on average about 3 dates before sex happens (I don’t recall how we worked that out, I’m not a data analyst, but presumably it was some keyword-based algorithm looking at chat messages).Ĥ.I used to work with a guy who had been an engineer for. Men initiate contact around 80% of the time in straight matchmaking, and if you are a woman looking to date other women and you simply initiate contact with another woman you have a good chance of success simply because it’s very very very common for women to match but then neither initiates contact.
From database analytics I can tell you a few things. I ran operations for an online dating company (notably not affiliated with Match). Looking at human, digital mating habits splayed out in data science form was really depressing.ģ. Something like 91% of opening messages were just one word “hey”, and ~85% of conversations were just one exchange long (“hey” -> no reply ever). The most depressing stat though was the histogram of word count in messages. Globally, about 90% of the users are men, so there is a huge male to female disparity, although it’s not that bad on a per country basis (for some countries). I knew some guys would swipe right more than women but wasn’t prepared for how little women swipe right!Ģ.I used to work at Bumble, although this was about 4-5 years ago.